Simply Seeing  

the way to simply be

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Frequently Asked Questions

If I don’t do anything, won’t I become a passive, lazy slob who doesn’t stand for anything?

If I don’t resist won’t people just walk all over me? What about self-respect?

I have difficulty with your idea that there is nothing wrong with us. Can you explain what you mean?

I don’t understand what you mean by simply seeing?

How is this different from other forms of meditation?

I don’t see how sitting and seeing for 20 or 30 minutes a day can change me that much?

I’ve always felt that meditating is like escaping the realities of the world. How do you see this?

As resistance is weakened and repressed feelings emerge, how are these handled?

I already have such a busy schedule I don’t see how I can find the time to do something more. What do you suggest?

 

If I don’t do anything, won’t I become a passive, lazy slob who doesn’t stand for anything?

What is being suggested is not that you do nothing, it is that you do fully from a state of being and not from a state of fear and confusion. At present most of us live in a state of disconnectedness and fear. In this state we act compulsively out of fear. This kind of doing is disjointed and self-centered, for its main purpose is the preservation of a fearful, disconnected “me”. When we step into being and see the fear and disconnectedness melt away, we start acting from a state of joy and compassion. Whatever action springs from this state has a very different quality for it is selfless. It has the capacity to change the world. It is much more active as it is totally present and resists nothing. When there is no resistance action flows much more easily. This is very different to being a passive, lazy slob.

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If I don’t resist won’t people just walk all over me? What about self-respect?

When we experience something uncomfortable, the fearful “me” perceives this as a threat and reacts defensively to protect its world. This is our usual state of being. Life is felt as dangerous. Viewed from this angle, not resisting seems foolish and tantamount to being taken advantage of and abused. 

As the walls of this “me” soften with the ability to simply see and we feel less disconnected and alone, we also feel much safer. We are less afraid of experiencing and embracing life. What seemed like self-protection now seems like self-restriction.

Non-resistance refers to this internal state of being whereby our experience is allowed to flow instead of being blocked by a fearful “me”. In this state we totally respect and embrace who we are. We are fully alive and present in our relationships as life flows through us. Viewed from this angle, resistance seems quite foolish, and the thought of someone taking advantage of us, quite foreign.

The feeling of being taken advantage of comes from not valuing ourselves and not “being” in relationships. We feel ignored and unacknowledged. How can this happen when we are fully allowing life to flow through us? 

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I have difficulty with your idea that there is nothing wrong with us. Can you explain what you mean?

This statement comes from seeing beyond the veil of mind created illusion. The mind that has fallen asleep and feels separate from its source also feels alone and afraid. In this state we perceive the world with a root fear of being annihilated. Problems appear a bit everywhere. Everything that is perceived as a potential threat to the survival of who we think we are becomes a problem that must be resisted. This is the world of mind created suffering. Every time we resist something “out there” to protect the “me over here” we strengthen the “me” and the sense of separateness. 

This statement points at who we truly are beyond who we have come to believe ourselves to be. Beyond belief, beyond mind created illusion, there is nothing wrong with us. And so to awaken back into a state of being dissolves the walls we’ve erected around us.

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I don’t understand what you mean by simply seeing?

Being able to step out of the confusion and separation that is thought and simply see things as they are without labels, without judgment, without choice. This is simply seeing. This is the state at the source of all our perception and thinking. For without seeing there would be nothing on which to put labels. So this is an ability we all have and use, the moment before we label, compare, judge, criticize, reject, analyze. In other words the moment before we think. So simply seeing happens in the space between thoughts. Simply seeing is being present to the moment, to the now.

Simply seeing also points at the simplicity that’s required for moving beyond unrest. When we feel frustrated, angry, sad, alone or just unhappy, feelings that are normal to a state of mind identification and disconnectedness, our automatic response is to do something in order to move beyond these feelings. This strengthens their reality. However, by simply seeing what is, by becoming the silent witness, we step out of the unrest and no longer fuel the impulse to do and the sense of separateness. By simply seeing we step out of mind activity and this is what transforms us. This is the power of Simply Seeing Meditation. Something beyond the isolated “me” is allowed into our experience and transforms it, and all that’s required for this to happen is simply seeing. No effort, no force is necessary.

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How is this different from other forms of meditation?

Simply Seeing Meditation is different from many forms of meditation in that there is no method one must learn. There is nothing that thought has grabbed on to and packaged as a technique. The objective is to step out of mind activity and any method has the potential of strengthening this. There are no mantras, there are no positions, there is no chanting. There is nothing that must be done. There is only seeing and being and every time these are present, mind activity slows down.

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I don’t see how sitting and seeing for 20 or 30 minutes a day can change me that much?

For most of us, our daily activities are part of a routine. A routine is good if it allows us to do things without having to think every time as if it were the first. However, if we become habituated to the extent that our life is but a habit, from sleeping, to eating, to working, to sleeping, the routine is very limiting. The habits numb us into a state of automatic, mechanical doing where moments of deep aliveness and joy are rare. 

Simply seeing for as little as 20 minutes a day opens a door between the worlds of doing and being. The 20 minutes create a gap in the humdrum of routine and life and light are allowed in. The more we see, the more awake we feel and the less we get lost in the habituated patterns of our daily activities. This is something that grows gradually and naturally without effort or force because this is simply the natural state of life. The humdrum is not, it is mind created and resists this natural state. 

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I’ve always felt that meditating is like escaping the realities of the world. How do you see this?

If you sit with the purpose of pushing unpleasant thoughts, feelings, sensations and images away or if you sit with the purpose of pursuing some enchanted forest or imaginary paradise that will release you, then there is a great chance you are escaping reality. Simply Seeing Meditation is not about pushing away the negative and seeking the positive. This still belongs to mind activity. Simply Seeing Meditation invites you to sit and see things as they are, whether they be judged as positive or negative by thought. As the ability to simply see grows and the resistance to what is weakens, you experience clarity in perception and lightness of being in the world. There is no desire to escape anything in this state. Quite the contrary, you are deeply inspired and empowered to face the world with a freshness and an aliveness that can transform it.

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As resistance is weakened and repressed feelings emerge, how are these handled?

They are allowed to be. This is a natural outcome. With a growing ability to simply see, there is less resistance to what is. The walls of the separate “me” naturally weaken and feelings and emotions are allowed to flow again. Life can move through us as experience. As this happens gradually, there is no danger. 

If the intensity of the feelings and emotions is judged as too great, the fearful “me”, that resists and judges, will want to stop them. Its defensive walls might struggle to block the experience. If it succeeds there will be respite from the intensity until the walls come down again. If it doesn’t succeed three things can happen. 1. The experience can be allowed to run its course and true healing can take place. 2. The separate me can continue struggling and experience increased distress and fear. 3. In some cases the experience can shake the person’s sense of “me” to the point that it becomes difficult to go back to habituated patterns and routines. The ground on which they stood has shifted significantly. They can temporarily be left feeling at a loss as to what to do in spite of a deeper connection with life and a deeper presence to the moment. 

In the latter two cases, individual guidance can help move beyond resistance and adapt to the awareness that has been gained. However, as awareness grows and simply seeing continues gradually, resistance and judgment naturally weaken, attachment to old patterns is severed and freedom and joy are felt.

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I already have such a busy schedule I don’t see how I can find the time to do something more. What do you suggest?

It is very important that Simply Seeing Meditation not be taken as another task that you have to get done, another check on the activities list. It is not something that you do. It is a space you create during the day to allow yourself to be. 

At first, it is recommended to start slowly and easily with 5 to 10 minutes. If you cannot find 5 minutes 4 or 5 times a week then you don’t really want to change. You’re fooling yourself into believing that you are trying so you can feel better about yourself. Continue doing what you’re doing. However, if your desire is strong enough, then you will find a way to create a window of 5 minutes. This is about choice and responsibility.

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